Authentic Relating & Empowerment for Secure Attachment
A Comprehensive online group coaching program for learning how to heal insecure attachment and become secure in your relationships
In this 9-week group program, you will learn how to heal your relationship with yourself to feel empowered in your relationships with others. Each workshop will bring you closer to becoming more secure in your attachment style by teaching you life-changing skills and facilitating healing connections with like-minded people.
Before we get into the nitty gritty about the program, we want to talk about who this program is actually for…
You are someone who desires to have secure and fulfilling relationships, but you become overwhelmed by relationships. You either get anxious or become avoidant with the people you wish to connect with.
Whether you’re…
- Struggling in your relationships
- Can’t seem to kick that pesky habit of people-pleasing
- Easily become codependent in your relationships
- Struggling with a fear of intimacy or avoiding your own emotions
- Showing up hot and cold in your relationships due to an inner conflict of desire and fear
- Feeling alone or lonely in the world without connection to a supportive community
You’re in the right place. I want to tell you exactly how Authentic Relating & Empowerment (ARE) for Secure Attachment will give you the tools, inspiration, and support to learn how to thrive in your relationships.
Maybe this is the time in your life when you heal your past so you can finally feel secure in your relationships…
By the end of this 9-week program you will:
Have a better understanding of what it takes to thrive in your relationships
Have a stronger sense of self-worth and safety within yourself
Have a greater sense of confidence to show up just as you are without hiding behind the masks you have created
Develop strategies to manage the anxiety that relationships can cause
Experience a sense of belonging as you establish meaningful connections with people who understand you
Develop interpersonal skills and new ways of relating to others in an authentic way
Learn how to become more self-expressive so you can get your needs met and feel more secure in your relationships
When you enroll for this 9 week program you’ll learn how to:
- Have a stronger sense of self and safety within
- Overcome self-abandonment and codependency patterns
- Identify and heal the subconscious core wounds that are contributing to your insecure attachment style
- Heal the abandonment wound
- Open your heart so you can give and receive love freely
- Understand, honour and communicate your needs
- Honour and set healthy boundaries
- Let go of people-pleasing habits
- Let go of unhelpful coping habits
- Develop emotion processing skills
- Show up authentically so you can stop avoiding or hiding your emotions
- Let go of shame and develop resilience to your shame triggers
- Show up more presently with yourself and others
- Express yourself in a way that gives you more satisfaction in your relationships
- Understand how to soothe your nervous system
- Handle rejection and let go of your fear of judgement
- Self-affirm instead of seeking external validation
- Replace unhelpful coping habits with facing up to challenges with courage
- Form healthy relationships that will meet your needs
- Transform conflict in your relationships into deeper intimacy
- Be vulnerable in a safe space with people who understand you
When you enroll you get access to:
- 25 hours of workshops over 9 weeks (Live on Zoom)
- Workshops include PowerPoint slide presentations, large group discussions, smaller breakout room discussions
- Lifetime access to all the course materials (PowerPoint slides, resources, etc.)
- Weekly check-in calls with other participants
- Access to a WhatsApp group chat during and after the course
- Resources and pro tips on how to navigate many of the challenges faced by people with insecure attachment
- Reading recommendations
- An opportunity to change your life and meet some amazing people who are on a similar journey
Does this resonate…
Relationships cause you fear, mistrust, and anxiety. The insecurity started in childhood and has continued into your adult relationships. Relationships really make you feel vulnerable because they tend to expose your wounding. Your past keeps calling to be dealt with, but instead of dealing with your feelings, you suppress them in order to function and survive. You feel that your attachment trauma inhibits you from accessing life like you want to or that you’re not able to function in your relationships due to fear.
I am also someone who has dealt with attachment trauma and relationship challenges, which led to me developing a disorganized attachment style and C-PTSD, so I understand what you’re going through.
I know what it’s like to bring insecurity and trust issues into relationships.
I know what it’s like to abandon myself for the approval of others.
I know what it’s like to feel ashamed to have a trail of failed relationships.
I want to offer you a way out—the same way out that I am taking to learn how to thrive in my relationships. I know you can transform how you relate to yourself and others. I know you can stop disowning aspects of yourself and embrace who you really are.
I know how powerful it can be to connect with other people on this journey who also have insecure attachment, and I want to share this opportunity with you.
The “ARE for Secure Attachment” group program offers you a supportive community where we all walk each other home to acceptance and love within ourselves. For many of us, it may be the first time you feel like you truly belong to a community of people who truly get you.
This is the power of the ARE group program, and I would love for you to join me on this powerful and transformative journey.
Sneak peek at what’s inside the program
9 weeks of interactive group training and coaching:
Week 1: Introduction to ARE
- Creating a safe space and getting to know each other
- Course overview and setting your goals
- How to get the most out of the course
- Understanding the nature of insecure attachment
Week 2: Setting context: Understanding insecure attachment Styles
- Exploring how insecure attachment is developed in childhood
- Exploring the core wounds of each attachment style
- Exploring the emotional problems of each attachment style
- Exploring the unique needs of each attachment style
- Understanding what is required to develop secure attachment
Week 3: Understanding Emotions & developing Emotional Intelligence
- Explore the difference between healthy and unhealthy emotion processing
- Learn how to work with challenging emotions
- Address unhelpful coping behaviours and protector parts (substance use, avoidance, comfort eating, self-abandonment, procrastination, excessive scrolling, dissociation, social withdrawal, etc.)
- Addressing unresolved emotional responses from the past by exploring the journey of emotional development
Week 4: Healing Complex Trauma & codependency
- Understanding complex trauma, and how to begin the healing process
- How to reparent the traumatized inner child
- Understanding and working with our protector parts
- Healing the codependent parts within us
- Healing the abandonment wound
- Moving towards an internal sense of safety and security
Week 5: Integration Period: learning to rest
- 2-hour group discussion integrating the last 4 weeks
- Integration is taking what we learned so far, making meaning of it, and applying it to our lives
- We use this week to integrate all the information and experiences from the first 4 workshops
- It is a time to slow down, rest, and let the work we have done take hold in our mind, body and soul
Week 6: Becoming more Present
- How to authentically connect to yourself and others through presence
- How to become emotionally intelligent and resilient
- Developing the observer self: the part of you that witnesses your experiences
- Developing your intuition and curiosity in relation to other people’s feelings and behaviours
- Learn how to hold space for other people to be authentic
Week 7: Improving Your Communication: Listening Skills
- How to give and receive emotional validation
- Understanding differences in relating to people with different attachment styles
- How to actively listen and make people feel heard
- How to slow down your pace of relating so it can meet your needs and the needs of others
- The art of conflict transformation
Week 8: Improving Your Communication: Self-Expression
- Exploring barriers to self expression
- Breaking the habits of people pleasing
- How to communicate your needs and make decisions more effectively
- Using vulnerability to enrich your relationships
- Cultivating your sense of worthiness
- How to set and maintain healthy boundaries
Week 9: Program Integration & Wrap Up
- 2-hour group discussion integrating the last 9 weeks
- Sharing challenges and successes throughout the course
- Getting a chance to share the impact other participate had on you
- Discussion of the next steps to continue your journey to towards empowerment
THE “ARE for Secure Attachment” Facilitator
You may be asking yourself, “Who is this person that will show me how to build secure attachment?”
I help people who struggle to feel secure in their relationships due to attachment injuries and low self-worth, learn how to overcome insecurity, fear and shame. I am offering you a step-by-step process and a supportive community to go on a journey towards having more authentic and empowered relationships!
Matt Landsiedel
Matt is a Relationship Counsellor, Facilitator & Educator with expertise in healing and relationships.
He specializes in working with highly sensitive people (HSP), empaths, and gay men to develop a stronger sense of self-worth. His areas of expertise are teaching people how to heal toxic shame, complex trauma, and disorganized attachment so they can embody their authentic selves and feel more empowered and secure in their relationships.
Matt is a Registered Professional Counsellor through the Canadian Professional Counsellors Association. He has spent the last 17 years guiding thousands of seekers on their psychological and spiritual journey through life. He has also studied Peruvian Shamanism through the Santa Tierras Earth Medicine Traditions, incorporating this healing modality into his life and coaching/counselling practice.
Inspired to Be Authentic is a mission Matt has purposefully created. Through his creative content, coaching/counselling, and community facilitation, he inspires you to share more of your truth with the world. He does this by teaching you life-changing skills and sharing energetic transmissions that inspire you to show up courageously in your own life by practicing vulnerability.
Matt’s vision for humanity is for us all to live with more courage to share ourselves authentically and enjoy greater intimacy and connection.
Matt lives in Calgary, Canada, and in his spare time can be found traveling the world, writing, reading, hiking mountains, meditating and contemplating life, spending quality time with family and friends, learning the guitar, singing, taking photos of the natural world, tending to his plants, and bringing his two visions to life; Inspired to Be Authentic and Gay Men’s Brotherhood.
